You Can Win Back Lost Love – If You Know How
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I hate relationship breakups. Whether they are mine or someone I know it can be heartbreaking. Fortunately I know that you can win back lost love if you know the right strategies to take. I'm not saying it's going to be easy (matters of the heart never are), all I'm saying that it's definately possible. First step is evaluating what went wrong and whether you really want to get back with your ex specifically or just want to be in a relationship (and they are the obvious choice)
If you decide to try to win back lost love, the first step is to apologize.  You might think you’ve done this. You might have said you were sorry several times. But if your ex thought you were apologizing just to stop a break-up, he or she might not think the apology was sincere.Â
If you were the one who did something that you need to apologize for, apologize again. Now they might think the apology is sincere, because nothing hinges on it. If the relationship has ended, you won’t be saying it only to save it but they will believe that you really mean it. (And hopefully, you do.)
When your ex was the one who did something worth apologizing for, then rather than try to get a sincere apology from them, forgive them. You may never forget, especially if your break-up was because of cheating, but you must learn to forgive. Forgiving is much harder for some of us than merely saying, “I forgive you,†though, so you might want to read a book or two on forgiveness and how to really mean it. If you want to win back lost love, this step will help you do it. And it can help prevent problems in the future, too.Â
If you do succeed and you win back lost love, 3 or 6 or 9 months into the newly patched relationship, old issues might come up. If you haven’t forgiven the person for whatever was done to break up the relationship, then you might have a hard time getting past everything. Old wounds would be reopened and it’s likely that hurtful things would be said.Â
But if you can truly forgive the person, then there won’t be any need to rehash the past. While you’re working on forgiving him or her for whatever happened to cause the break up, forgive them for the break up itself and you’ll save yourself lots of grief down the road.
You have to start being the 'new' you, or rather the 'old' new - you know the one they originally fell in love with - not the one that has been crying over tv commercials. The qualities that made them fall for you in the first place are the ones that you need to bring out again and remind them why you got together in the first place.
